Are You a Safe Person Part 2
I’m sure I’m not the only one who has avoided telling someone they hurt you because it was easier to just move on or you didn’t have the energy to say more. While I’m a believer in protecting your mental health, I do think you need to do your part to let people know when they are hurting you. Intentional or not they should also know when you feel used or neglected. The timing will never be perfect. You might be tired or dealing with other emotionally draining experiences and the person you may want to speak to may be going through their own inner battles. That’s why having grace for others and awareness of yourself can help immensely.
I’ve learned and am still learning that speaking up has many benefits. It helps you develop a backbone, it saves time and energy and gives another the opportunity to morph into a better person. People won’t always grow from these hard conversations but life is so much easier when you give people a chance to know when they are doing something that is wrong. If you find out that they are not interested in doing better, then you can make an educated decision on if you want to hold onto the relationship rather than struggling internally over and over again. Some people just don’t realize that they are hurting you. How many people are wandering around in the world clueless to the things they do daily to damage people emotionally? Of course things won’t be simple even if you become the most blunt person on earth. There are people with legit reasons why they will never be able to change or “get it”. People that are “difficult” could have personality disorders, trauma and other factors that just prevent them from seeing things clearly. They may hurt you or be hurt by you whether they intend to or not. But I like the idea of being honest whatever the outcome.
It’s such a beautiful thing when you know you can open up, not be made fun of, have an opinion and feel like you are safe amongst those you call friends and family but it’s not always the case for everyone. You might make someone feel uncomfortable and friends will hurt you. We just have to do our best to be honest and loving whenever we can.
Have you ever hurt anyone unintentionally? Has anyone hurt you unintentionally? What are things you do to correct the relationship? Have you ever walked away from a toxic relationship?