As a black woman and especially as an adult I’ve been learning to differentiate between the negative messages I receive. Some of them are because I’m a woman and some of them are because I’m black. While these are two separate things about me I’ve learned that the intersection of both exposes me to a […]
Mixed Messages I’ve Received as a Black Woman
As a Black woman, I’ve witnessed a lot of negative projections on myself and other black women. I’ve noticed some of these negative ideas in movies, TV shows, and as they pop up in conversations. I assume there must have been some originating source for these negative projections. I’m always curious about where ideas start […]
Life after Divorce- Making Peace with your Past-Conclusion
Rebuilding your life after a divorce is obviously hard. Re-evaluate One of the positives can be having the time to really look at yourself and where your life is going. In a way, you’re forced to re-evaluate everything. Some of us naturally take time every once in a while to do check-ins with ourselves. I […]
5 Tips for Mental Health
In honor of “Bell let’s talk” day last week I am interrupting the conclusion of my series on divorce for this special piece on mental health. We have Debbie Opoku-Mulder sharing some of her expertise with us today! For more information or to get in touch with her please check out her website: www.insidementalhealth.ca Ponder […]
The Death of Divorce- Part 3
Continuing on last week’s list of do’s and don’ts to support someone going through a separation or divorce… Don’t ask too many probing questions. Let them share what they want and ask supportive questions to show you’re interested and listening. When they have the energy or the time they will share what they are ready […]
The Death of Divorce- Part 2
To stay or walk away… What do you do when someone you know has chosen to leave a marriage or is being left? You may have your own thoughts about it. When those from outside the relationship try to support a person through separation or divorce they can mistake their good intentions and their defeated […]