How do you stay grounded in who you are as a person when so many things are vying for your attention?
All the voices around seem to contradict who you should be. How do you strive to be proud of who you are -and becoming -while staying in the moment? I know I’ve struggled in the past to stay grounded in who I am especially during difficult foundation rattling times. Here are a few quick ways I’ve found helpful to keep myself grounded. Hopefully, they will be of use to you.
Build your personality
Focus on the important parts of your personality that you can develop. Choose to not be overly consumed with superficial things. There is a time to think about what you have and maybe what you look like, but if you are constantly only thinking about what you need to buy to feel better about yourself or feeling insecure because you don’t think you are attractive enough, then you’re stuck in a negative place. What are some ways you can build into yourself mentally, physically or emotionally? Try spending time on reading, working out, new experiences and people, or doing selfless acts for others. Even focusing on a new goal can be a great way to develop. Be creative in ways to expand yourself as a person.
Build your relationship with God
Develop or focus on your relationship with God. My relationship with God has been the source of all of the inspiration in my life. Not only does developing my relationship with Him and meditation on the bible energize me, but through prayer and my church community I’ve been able to stay grounded on where I feel God is leading me even during difficult times. It’s the source of building my true identity.
Stop the comparison
As a woman, it’s almost normal to look around and compare yourself with others. Not only that, but we compare ourselves to the outward image of others. We end up missing so much. People are not one dimensional and as tempting as it is to compare ourselves with those that we see, we need to remember that we have no idea what people are dealing with behind the scenes. Neither do we know what they’ve done to get where they are. We need to keep a single-eyed focus on where we want to be. Instead of envy, try to support and encourage those around you. Stay in that positive headspace when the ugly green-eyed monster tries to throw you off course.
Figure out your values
Spend real-time writing down your values and working to build who you are as a person. Write down the items that make up your identity. Try to develop them further once you know what they are. Whenever you feel yourself slipping into confusion, regret or uncertainty, remember your identity staples.
Keep working at it
There will always be circumstances that can shift you from your place of peace so you’re going to have to pay real attention to how you feel in situations. You might discover that there are moments that trigger insecurity and fear in you. As you begin to notice and navigate these situations it will be a tremendous help and remind you what’s really important in your life and keep you on the right track!
What are some methods you use to stay grounded? Let me know in the comments!