When I realized I was not an Alien Part 2
When I met my friend in California I realized what I had been missing in my life. I’ve always had people who have spoken into my life and mentors that I could learn from but I realized I had not met anyone older who had similar passions. She was a life role model in how I wanted my future to look. I wanted to be like her in a lot of ways. Meeting someone that was on a similar trajectory helped me come back to Toronto with fresh vision and confidence to do what I thought was important. The conference was also a confirmation of this as I listened and learned from other writers. Each of my experiences were now a unique perspective and wisdom that I could offer someone else.
After that conference I was able to finish the first draft of my book Anastasia: The Awakening and while I edited that book I started writing For Black Girls: The Shaping of a Young Woman. My first book took me about ten years to battle through but that conference was one of the catalysts to finally finishing it. I understood why I was doing it and that was all I needed to continue.
Years later I took a life coaching course and felt even more at home with what would be a major part of my life. I had different experiences in health, mental health, as a black woman as a former athlete, Christian, child and youth worker, single and married woman that I could speak to. I want to share these experiences and connect with others. I learned that it was okay if not everyone valued what I cared about because there would be others that would also find their calling and direction from the things I said. Those that needed to hear what I had to say would find me and they would be my tribe.
Meeting new people and seeking out new experiences can lead to opportunities that will be defining moments in your life. They can help solidify your perspective and help you know that you are not alone or even teach you more about why you think the way that you do. They can mold us into being more open minded.
Have you ever had an experience or met someone that has helped you figure out where you belong and your purpose?